The Healing Power of Words: Constructive Communication

But when Daniel learned that the law had been signed, he went home and knelt down as usual in his upstairs room, giving thanks to his God.<br />


“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”

Colossians 4:6 (ESV)

Have you ever noticed how a kind word can completely change someone’s day? Our words hold incredible power. When we choose them wisely, we can heal wounds, lift spirits, and bring a smile even during tough times.

Think about the last time someone gave you a genuine compliment. Maybe it was about your work ethic, your sense of humor, or something as simple as a thank you. Those words probably stuck with you and gave you a boost when you needed it most. That’s the power of gracious speech.

Colossians 4:6 reminds us to let our words be “gracious, seasoned with salt.” Just like a perfectly seasoned meal, our words need a bit of kindness and thoughtfulness to make a real impact. When our words are gracious, they preserve relationships and enhance understanding.

On the other hand, think about if you overdo the salt on your steak. What happens then????? It tastes absolutely horrible, and your mouth gets extremely dry. Our words are the same way. People can tell when we overdo it. And just like salt on steak is no good at all. 

In our daily lives—whether we’re dealing with family, colleagues, or that one guy who always seems to cut us off in traffic—we have countless opportunities to choose our words wisely. Instead of letting frustration take over, let’s aim for constructive communication.

Remember, constructive communication isn’t about avoiding tough conversations. It’s about being honest and direct, but also respectful and kind. It’s about finding the right words to build bridges instead of walls.

So, next time you’re about to speak, pause for a moment and think: Are my words gracious? Are they making things better? Let’s be intentional with our words, spreading healing and hope wherever we go.

In our faith journey and beyond, let’s make our conversations as smooth and effective as a well-tuned engine. After all, a kind word can go a long way—longer than any highway you’ll ever travel.

Stay gracious, stay seasoned, and keep spreading the good vibes!


Take Action Items


  • Practice the Pause: Before responding in a conversation, take a deep breath and think about how your words will impact the other person. Aim for words that heal, not harm.


  • Daily Compliments: Make it a habit to give at least one genuine compliment each day. It could be to a family member, a colleague, or even a stranger. Notice how it brightens their day—and yours!


  • Gratitude Journal: Start a gratitude journal where you write down three positive things about people you interact with daily. This will help shift your mindset towards appreciating and expressing kindness.


  • Constructive Feedback: When giving feedback, use the “sandwich method”—start with something positive, provide the constructive criticism, and end with another positive note. This helps keep the conversation balanced and encouraging.


  • Empathy Exercises: Put yourself in others’ shoes before speaking. Consider their feelings and perspectives. This will help you communicate with more compassion and understanding.


  • Reflect and Adjust: At the end of each day, reflect on your conversations. Were your words gracious and seasoned? If not, think about how you could have responded differently and make a plan to improve.


  • Encourage Open Dialogue: Foster an environment where open and honest communication is welcomed. Encourage others to express themselves and listen actively without judgment.


  • Random Acts of Kindness: Use your words to perform random acts of kindness. A simple “Thank you” or “I appreciate you” can go a long way.


  • Scripture Reminders: Keep Colossians 4:6 visible—on your desk, fridge, or phone. Let it serve as a daily reminder to season your words with grace.


  • Accountability Partner: Find someone you trust to hold you accountable in your communication journey. Check in with each other regularly about your progress and share any challenges or victories.


By incorporating these action items into your daily routine, you’ll not only enhance your own communication but also positively impact those around you. Happy communicating!


Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the gift of words and the incredible power they hold. We come before You today, seeking Your guidance in using our speech to bring healing, encouragement, and love to those around us.

Lord, help us to remember the wisdom from Colossians 4:6, to let our speech always be gracious and seasoned with salt. Teach us to pause and consider the impact of our words, that we may speak with kindness, empathy, and understanding.

Fill our hearts with Your love so that it overflows into our conversations. May our words be tools of healing, building bridges instead of walls, and fostering connections rather than divisions. Help us to be mindful of the needs and feelings of others, responding with compassion and grace.

Grant us the strength to offer genuine compliments and to lift others up, even when it’s difficult. Remind us to practice gratitude, to seek out the good in those around us, and to express our appreciation openly and sincerely.

Father, guide us in giving constructive feedback with a spirit of gentleness and respect. Help us to encourage open dialogue, where honesty and kindness prevail. Let our words be a reflection of Your love and grace.

We ask for Your forgiveness for the times we’ve spoken harshly or without thought. Help us to learn from these moments and to grow in our ability to communicate constructively.

Lord, we pray for a heart that listens more than it speaks, that seeks to understand before seeking to be understood. May our communication be a source of light in a world that often feels dark and divided.

Thank You for Your constant presence and for guiding our words and actions. We trust in Your wisdom and love to lead us in becoming better communicators, spreading Your peace and joy through every conversation.

In Jesus’ name, we pray.


Dan Greer