We Make Choices Every Day
”Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? ”
Let me start with how the Lord gave me this topic.
As I write this devotional I am sitting in Cancun Mexico with my amazing wife and life partner, Jenna.
You might be saying wow these guys travel a lot!
You’d be right to think that. But it is a life choice that we made and most likely will continue to make.
The thing is that it doesn’t mean that if you never travel, or leave the state you were born in that you don’t have just as many adventures or fun times.
It simply means that we have made different choices in your life than we have.
And that’s OK.
We all make different choices every day. And we all have different things that affect our choices.
Some of the things that help us make choices are:
Fear, Finances, Family, Work, Personal Beliefs, and many other aspects of life.
Today we are going to break down some of those “things” that “help / determine” the decisions we make.
Let’s start with Fear.
I’m just going to say this, WE ALL HAVE FEAR!
Some of it is at different levels and some of us have way more than others do. But we all have it.
Personally, after losing a close friend in a car accident I have a fear that I will lose Jenna in a freak accident. We miss you Heather, and we feel for the ones you left behind.
I also have a fear of missing out. Or in the business world as we call it FOMO. I am scared that I will miss out on some amazing opportunities to grow our business, share God’s word with people who really need it.
I have a fear that everything in our business will just vanish as fast as it came in.
Here’s the thing with FEAR, it is all mental. What I mean is that we make fear as bad or as little as it is. It is all in our heads. We have CONTROL OVER FEAR!
Remember that, you have control over fear. You have the choice to be afraid or to be courageous.
Next, let’s talk about how finances “help” us make decisions. When we don’t have any $$ in the bank we usually make decisions not to spend money.
Here’s the thing that I have come to realize. And we have proven, especially with traveling.
You don’t have to spend a massive amount of $$$$ to go to amazing places.
In fact, the trip that I remember the most was our first trip to Yellowstone. That entire trip cost us less than $1000 for 7 days with 6 people!
We stayed on BLM just outside of the parks in a tent and cooked over fire what we ate. Our only cost was the food we bought, our gas, and any little extras we bought to remember the trip.
Of course, we could have made this same trip cost $$$$$, but we made choices that allowed us to go when we didn’t have much in our accounts.
Next, let’s talk about how the family “helps” us make decisions.
Our family “always” knows what is best for us.
Do you believe that?
As a parent, I am called to say yes, soon I am called to say HECK NO!
I am so grateful that our family realizes that we are not like them. Can you imagine my dad swimming in the ocean, surfing?
NO WAY JOSE! He hates the water. So I’m glad that when I tell him that I am taking my entire family to San Diego for a week of fun in the ocean, he doesn’t go crazy and tell me everything that is wrong with that idea.
Now I am not saying that family won’t try to persuade you to do what they want you to do. I’m just saying that it’s our choice, not theirs.
What about work, how does that affect how we make decisions?
A great example comes to mind here lately.
And it is extremely controversial.
I’m just going to say it.
Ok here it goes
Can you tell that I’m stalling?
Alright, here I go.
Having an employer MAKE an employee get a vaccine!
Now I’m not going to go into the weeds here, what I’m going to say is that there were and are a TON of people who got a vaccine lately who probably would not have gotten one if their employer would not have encouraged it.
Now if you stopped reading after that last paragraph, I’m sorry. But it directly relates to our topic of what causes us to make the decisions we make.
Our work may not allow us to have to time off during a specific time of year. That would be another way that they influence how we make our decisions.
Here’s a thing to remember, at any job, if you quit today they will start working to find someone new to fill your shoes tomorrow.
I beg of you please do not allow your work to determine your belief in God or your beliefs in him.
The last probably the most important thing that helps us make decisions is our personal beliefs.
If we believe that eating pork is against the bible, then we don’t eat pork.
If we believe that only the rich travel to exotic destinations, and don’t feel rich. Then we don’t travel to exotic destinations.
If we believe in Christianity, then we try to be good Christians.
Do you see what I’m saying here?
Our beliefs make a huge difference in how we make decisions.
I know that this devotion was a little all over the place today, so I really appreciate you sticking with me till now.
Just a little more I promise.
We get the opportunity to make choices and decisions every day.
We choose how we react to every situation, we choose where we go, what we eat, and who we associate with.
We chose where we live, where we work, and what we do for a living.
We chose to believe in God and Christ.
Now is the time to get off the bench and start taking action.
One of the things that I want to encourage everyone to do today is to make a decision!
Make a hard decision right now.
Take a deep breath.
Say a little prayer, “God help guide me to make this amazing decision that I know you will bless!”
Now make that decision. Go ahead and make another one too.
Lord, God, Father in heaven we are so blessed that we chose to allow you to be a part of our lives. We are blessed that you chose to create this amazing world. We are blessed that you chose to create us. We are blessed that you chose to listen to our prayers and help us make amazing decisions and choices every single day. God, today we want to ask you for one thing. We ask that you help us make AMAZING choices every day. Help us to choose to love you. Help us to choose to show the love you share with us to the world. Help us to choose not to get angry. Help us to choose where our next amazing adventure should be too. Help us to choose you over the world every single day and in every situation and decision we make. God, you are so amazing and great. You treat us so much better than we deserve. You help us to go places that we never imagined and meet people that only could facilitate the relationship with. God, thank you!
We ask all these things and praise in the name of your amazing son.
A Little More
As I sit here looking out over the ocean in Cancun a few things come to me that I want to reflect on.
Back in November, I chose to join a mastermind where I would have the opportunity to network with others who are starting and running a business throughout the world, but mostly in the US.
It was a hard choice to part with the $$ that it cost to join that mastermind, but I knew in my heart that in the end, it was going to be amazing.
So far it has been so great. I don’t know if this is for everyone who owns a business, but it is most definitely for someone who is extremely motivated to grow their business as long as they are coachable and willing to take HUGE leaps of faith.
I have learned so much about how to make sales and marketing in the past few months. And to be 100% honest just going to this mastermind and making me take a trip to Cancun with just Jenna was worth every single penny that I invested in this process.
Something that you might not believe, but it is 100% true is that I am a total introvert when it comes to a large group of people I don’t know.
I am sure there are some of you right now saying, “NO WAY! I have seen you and you don’t have an issue talking to strangers, you can talk in front of HUGE groups of people, you speak all the time.”
The truth is that when I am in a group of people I don’t know, I clam up and hardly say anything.
Then as I get to know them I open up more and more.
Here is my trick to getting to know someone.
Ask them questions about themselves.
This does two things. First, it tells you a lot about them.
You just said, of course, it does because you are asking about them. Duh!
But it also tells you how much they care about getting to know you.
If all they do is talk about themselves the entire time you ask them questions, then it tells you that they don’t really care about getting to know you.
So you learn a lot about them literally and then I also learn that they are not the person that I want to be around all the time because they will only talk about themselves and not help me grow at all.
I am really bad about talking about myself. If you have ever given me a compliment you might have noticed that I look down at the ground and change the topic really really fast back to you.
I have been working on this but still, fail daily.
I love talking about others though. I want to know all about their business and all about them.
I do feel jipped when they never ask anything about me, where I’m going, or what I’ve got in the works.
So the next time you want to start a conversation with someone ask them a simple question like, What do you do? Or maybe, Where do you live? Or possibly, Where did you get that blouse? I want one just like it for me (my personal favorite to ask a demon. Lol).
Then allow the conversation to grow from there.
Also, stop being afraid of others, I promise they won’t bite too hard when you say HI.
And if you see me in a big group, come over to me and say hi. I would greatly appreciate that.
Will you pray with us?
Mankind throughout the world throughout our current situation
All Law enforcement and emergency response personnel
For all military personal serving our country and their families
Those in Leadership positions throughout the world